***Warning, I'm feeling down. Don't read if you are expecting me to be funny or uplifting - I am sure to disappoint. ****
What a day. 
Today is Hubby's birthday.
Birthdays are a big deal in our house.
We like to pamper the birthday person.
Today started off kind of 'blah'....everyone was feeling kind of 'blah', and the kids all woke up and said different 'blah' type things- one said - "today is Dad's birthday, what do you think he is doing?" One woke up and pathetically said "Happy Birthday Dad..." One burst into tears. Another was solemn. I was trying to keep it happy but all the while I was super sad on the inside. Typically we would send someone a package - a party in a box - and ask them to decorate Hubby's office. This year he specifically ask us NOT to do that. Crushed as we were we listened and honored his wishes. No party in a box. We sent him birthday packages, but that is not the same, no streamers, no balloons, no cake, no nothin'. I bet no one even knew it was his birthday - he's just that type of guy. Thinking about that (no one even knowing or caring that it was his birthday) all day today made me even more sad. No one was there to give him a hug, make him breakfast, decorate his room, or bake a birthday cake for him. He probably didn't even think twice about it being his birthday, it was just another day for him...he says every day is like Groundhog Day. I bet he didn't even save his birthday packages to open on his birthday. What made it even harder for me is that I couldn't even call him to say happy birthday.....sometimes I hate deployments, today was one of those days.
Christie Black
9/1/2011 01:35:21 pm

You are the one that taught me about making birthdays extra special. Love you my friend! Happy Birthday Jer!

9/1/2011 02:29:38 pm

‎:( I wish I could have done something for you. That does suck. Deployments do suck. I hope the rest of the time passes so quickly for you though. Please, always let me know if I can do anything!

9/1/2011 02:31:54 pm

aw, trish! your post made me cry. you were feeling so down today and yet you came over, with gift in hand, to make me feel better. you are one amazing woman! thank you for helping me get over my hump today. love you and yours!!

Kelly Van Drasek
9/1/2011 02:34:36 pm

I totally understand what you're going thru! My hubby's birthday was in July. I was so proud of myself because I set it all up to have some people decorate his desk and have this nice birthday surprise. I got it all set up, package sent out with all the necessary nonsense all to find out they wouldn't be able to do it because of something blah blah blah. And then the next day he was flying to Kabul so I didn't think they were going to be able to surprise him at all. I was crushed! I love birthdays!! I make a huge deal of them and here my love was not going to get his. Then I found out they did it anyways!! :D so my worry was for nothing! They still made him feel special! So don't you worry my friend! You know that he was probably thinking about you and the kids all day!! And that's the best present he could get :)

9/1/2011 08:53:39 pm


9/1/2011 08:56:29 pm

I'm not going to read it now, because I don't think I can without crying, and I can't cry right now. :( But I am thinking of you and praying for you, and hoping, hoping, hoping, that it will be better tomorrow. Send love and thoughts your way! xoxo

9/1/2011 09:47:58 pm

Trish...I so feel your pain. Having just finished Fred's deployment, the emotions are still so raw for me. There were days I felt so incredibily alone. I know its tough and because we are both such strong women, I think we are good at hiding our emotions so many times those around us don't even know we are suffering. I am happy that you have an outlet in your blog. My heart hurts for you and the kids. Stay strong..there will be many lonely, sad days ahead, but there will also be many filled with strength, love and the support of all the other military spouses who will lift you up. ((HUGS))

9/1/2011 09:48:37 pm

I just had the exact same experience a couple of weeks ago. James' birthday was on the 18th and he is the same way about not telling people. It was my worst day of his deployment yet. I even bought the cake I always make him I think out of habit and ended up making it for a friend who has the same birthday. Day by day girl and tomorrow is always better!

Jamie Chapman
9/1/2011 10:30:15 pm

The best idea I came up with was to celebrate for him! Celebrate HIM! Before the kids come home get a birthday cake, decorate the house and put a big picture of him at the head of the table. Get our your video camera and tape it to send to him. DO IT ALL!!! He is obviously very much at home...IN YOUR HEARTS and SPIRITS! It will lift up the kids and you to celebrate him. Then take them out to do something he loves to do and finish the night with his favorite movie and candy! I promise it will make you feel loads better!

9/1/2011 11:29:22 pm

I'm sorry Trish. Last year Mike celebrated his 40th bday in Afghanistan. :-(. So I understand.
Every day is one day closer. Stay strong, Sista!!

9/1/2011 11:29:55 pm

So sorry, Trish. I can't think of anything to say to make it better, but just know that I'm thinking of you and of Jeremy and the kids, too, and am so very grateful for all of the sacrifices that all of you are making for the rest of us.

9/2/2011 01:17:40 am

Love you Trish! Happy B'day Jer!

9/2/2011 02:17:22 am

Trish, i wish I could give you a hug right now, and a lemon drop martini. I think Jamie's post above is very wise. I thank God that there is always hope for a better tomorrow. I think you are an amazing woman! (BIG HUG)!!

9/2/2011 03:47:16 am

Love you girl, and I know Jay is thinking of his wonderful family and knowing how much he is truly loved today. Stay strong - you are one of the most positive people I know. :~)

Teri Netterville
9/2/2011 08:12:55 pm

Awww....friend. I wanna cry. Stinks. Wish we all lived closer. That would have been a perfect day to all get together and laugh through the hurt. Love you!!

4/19/2012 04:18:17 am

THX for info

8/16/2012 03:21:10 am

will return quickly

9/24/2012 07:49:58 pm

Great blog.

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